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Tips For Becoming a Better Personn

From the book “Happiness is a Choice You Make”-Lessons From a Year Among the Oldest Old” by John Leland

Try reading each tip slowly. Roll it ar around and feel it. Notice what comes up and choose wisely. 

  • The good things in life-happiness, purpose, contentment, companionship, beauty and love-have been there all along. We don’t need to earn them. Good food, friends, art, warmth, worth-these are the things we have already. We just need to choose them as our lives.
  •  Being grateful meant acknowledging the benign forces in the universe that were working in my favor. Life wasn’t just a battle I had to fight on my own; it was also a bounty I was lucky to receive, hands I was lucky to have supporting me. Gradually, I began to understand gratitude the way Fred saw it, less as a reaction to this or that circumstance than as a way of looking at the world. Life itself was reason to give thanks.
  •  Find happiness not in the absence of pain and loss, but in their acceptance.
  •  To accept death is to accept life, and to accept life was to live in joy, however dire the circumstances around you.
  •  Find happiness within turmoil, be satisfied now, not sacrificing the present for a future that might never happen.
  •  Choose to live in the things that warm us-in love, humor, compassion, empathy, a supportive arm.
  • Have a purpose and goals, have a positive attitude about old age. Don’t worry. Keep singing and dancing.

Helping Men Become Better Men

As I slide slowly into my elder years, what is important to me has shifted massively. I have spent more than 50 years writing computer software. I have created some amazing programs,. I still love it, but not as much as I love sitting in circle or ono-on-one with other men and goung deep. We look at our lives and lear to look into the mirro and see ourselfes more clearly.

When I hear a man say, “Life sucks”, I hear that he is in pain. So I listen to him with compassionate curiosity.

I don’t judgee him. Judging someone else is simply me hiding from something about e that I don’t like. Instead, I listen. I help him get past his story and into his  body.  And I I help hi see himself more clearly.

“But what about women,”. you may ask? In just over a year, I will have been married to Donna for 50 years. She doesn’t need my coaching.

Teaching and Coaching Services

Personal Growth Coach

I am a very different type of coach. I don’t do the pep-talks or the goal-setting thing. I simply listen deeply, ask tough questions and give you clean, clear and direct feedback. No bull-shit. No judgments. Just the stuff you probably know already but don’t know how to accept.

Take a free 30 minute test-ride and check me out.

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Personal Growth Coach

I am a very different type of coach. I don’t do the pep-talks or the goal-setting thing. I simply listen deeply, ask tough questions and give you clean, clear and direct feedback. No bull-shit. No judgments. Just the stuff you probably know already but don’t know how to accept.

Take a free 30 minute test-ride and check me out.

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Online Workshops

After more than 76 trips around the Sun, I have accumulated a fair bit of life-experience.  I share what I have learned with small groups of men in a series of on-line workshops that work you through five powerful steps. See the About page to learn more.

Workshops can be short (1-3 hours), or extended and spread out over several weeks.

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Group Facilitation / Teaching

One of the most powerful and long-lasting teachings offered by The Mankind Project is the Primary Integration Training. This is overfed in many forms by each community or area of MKP. This training teaches men how to create and participate in an I-Group. This training is often considered even more powerful and effective than the MKP New Warrior Training Adventure.

With over two decades of sitting in I-Groups), I offer short workshops that focus on a variety of topics such as “The Drama Triangle“, “Emotional Maturity“, “Improving Your Social Skills“, “and Exploring Archetypes

Upcoming Events

The Four Gateways are a series of online workshops that explore the four steps of personal growth that will transform you in ways you can only begin to imagine.

Each of these workshops is presented using Zoom sessions that last up to three hours per session with each of the first three comprising five to six weekly sessions.

 

Self-Awareness Workshop

Self-Awareness is the foundation of personal growth.  If you don’t know who you are, you are flying blind.

This six session workshop focuses on developing deeper internal self-awareness and establishing a practice of getting regular external feedback.

Self-Acceptance Workshop

If you cannot accept yourself as you are, you are destined to a life of loneliness and desperation.

This six session workshop addresses limiting behaviors, un-expressed feelings, self-limiting beliefs and unhealed trauma.

Self-Confidence Workshop

Authentic self-confidence arises from accepting yourself exactly as you are, perfectly imperfect and human.

This six-session workshop focuses on skill-building, and transforming and transcending limiting behaviors and beliefs into self-empowering choices.

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