My father was a brilliant but highly dysfunctional man who died friendless and full of judgments of others… and and way too young. I made a promise to myself when I was very young that I would learn from his failings. And I have.
I learned that judging people is like pouring salt into an open wound. It does not fix anything but it makes sure that a relationship with the person I am judging will be less than fulfilling.
I have learned the difference between judging and discerning which is simply seeing what is without the charge of projection that accompanies judgments. This allows me to chose healthy relationships and avoid (or at least let go of) toxic relationships. And I consider that a rather huge accomplishment.
And… [power] [married for almost 40] [great relationship with all my children] [living my mission]…