![]() I used to describe myself as a recovering engineer. I am very analytical and spend perhaps too much of my time in my head. About twenty years ago I started to discover that I also have a heart and that when I come from my heart, it is a very different experience than coming from my head.When I started the heart work, I wanted to quit my work as a computer programmer and become a coach. Fortunately, my wife talked me out of that. There are lots of life coaches out there, but not many that I know are actually making a living at it.When I found MKP and sat in i-Groups and staffed NWTA weekends, I found that I naturally came from my heart and that my head was of little use when facilitating men in their processes. I learned that I can (with some work) shift from my head to my heart and back again. I still find that transformation difficult, but not impossible. Several years ago, I started working with a powerful teacher named Jim Mitchell who gave me the simple answer to the head vs. heart conundrum. They are both tools and both each is appropriate in certain situations. This simple and obvious answer gave me the freedom to value both tools and to appreciate and grow each. Now I find that I have only two skill sets and they are polar opposites: I am a pretty good programmer and I am also a pretty good facilitator of men’s work.As I start transitioning into retirement, I plan to teach advanced programming skills at one of the local community colleges and to resurrect my coaching practice. But I will coach only men because I understand men. Women, on the other hand, delight but continue to baffle me. More: |
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